Moving forward with Integrity | Raeveen Pasupathy
Integrity is the most important element or aspect in someone’s life. Being integral often lures or opens up to various opportunities…
Moving forward with Integrity
Integrity is the most important element or aspect in someone’s life. Being integral often lures or opens up to various opportunities. Someone with Integrity also means the person is completely honest. Hence, so many of the things that cause us to suffer psychologically (Please pleasing, Negative Habits, or Staying in a flat relationship) result from being out of touch from ourselves.
So, what’s the obvious antidote for all these issues?
Integrity
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Integrity means being at one of your truest self
Now, think about your life. Maybe you have an “OK” job, “OK” relationships, and an “OK” sense of purpose. So, maybe your life isn’t perfect, but once again whose is? Honestly, you’re fine.
Now, think about how you feel. Does a sense of anxiety, discomfort, or disappointment lurk in your mind? Maybe you tend to dwell on things that didn’t work out or doubt that future dreams will ever come true. Emotionally, you might feel sad, grumpy, or numb; Physically, you have no energy; and mentally, you can’t seem to focus. Still honestly, you’re fine!
Wait, but are you really? And what if, for that matter, the word “fine” isn’t enough? Maybe you suspect there’s more out there (More love, more meaning, more happiness).
Habibi, this is where “Integrity” comes in.
Confusing? Let me summarize all these into a short and sweet message.
Integrity means being at one of your deepest, truest self and that’s the antidote to all your sufferings.
In today’s world, the word integrity has taken on a somewhat judgemental tone, but it just means “intact”. Being “in integrity” means being whole and undivided.
Example #1
When a plane has integrity, its many parts work together to make it glide over the air smoothly through the sky. But if it looses integrity, it could stall and crash. This is how physics work.
Example #2
Imagine you are in a Friendship, every friendship is built of from a lot of trust, patience, and love. Your friend may have trusted you, and that nurtures the friendship to come together. But when the Integrity is lost from any one of them, the entire friendship falls apart. This is how life work.
However, it is the same in everyday life. To satisfy social standards, you may often ignore or negate your true feelings, being unhappy, unproductive, sick in the process. When you act in ways that you don’t resonate at your deepest level, you suffer because you’re out of sync with yourself. In other words, you are out of “Integrity”.
Conversely, when your body, mind, heart and soul are totally aligned, your daily work absorbs you. You love being around your friends, and you experience the most refreshing sleep. Waking up is wonderful because you can’t wait to experience the day ahead. Life, like the intact plane, is smooth sailing.
Maybe you are wondering if all these are a fantasy, imagination or flapdoodle?
In this context, you could also be wondering if such perfect and fulfilling life ever exists? It is proven to the world that such life exists. If you are not achieving any of these, ask yourself again, why and how?
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Identify the parts of you that are suffering and set them free
Suffering is optional. Pain comes from events, while suffering comes from the way you handle those events. Popular psychologist often claim that “positive” thoughts make you happy, while “negative” thoughts make do the opposite. But a forced cheery statement “I love my job” can feel like a dagger to the heart. Meanwhile, a negative sentiment that matches what you truly believe “My job sucks” provides a sweet relief. Can you relate? 🙃
Letting go of beliefs are scary, and others might not like your newfound freedom. Don’t worry; this means you are on the right track. It’s so tempting to go into attack mode in the face of judgment, be it your own or that of others, but don’t give up on yourself. Focus instead on creating positive solutions; Read a book to concentrate on your true values, which research shows can reduce stress and make hard-to-hear information easier to digest.
Passing the center of the Earth means connecting with the core lie “I’m alone”. But by going deeper into your suffering, you will, at the same point, stop descending and start ascending. This is the end of self-betrayal, the point at which you stop “believing things onto yourself” and accept that you’re infinitely worthy, lovable, and loved.
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Have you ever been somewhere you have not been “in Integrity”? Honestly, I have been.
We humans are ever learning creatures in the planet. We often learn from our mistakes, pasts, sufferings from a painful experience. However, that’s something not the be proud of, in fact what is to be proud is, how you apologize, recover and rebuild your new-self without those traits. As we procrastinate on how our lives are not perfect, have we ever looked into if we were “perfect” at the first place? We cannot expect our surroundings to be perfect, if we are yet to achieve it by us individually.
Each of us reading this, have at least regretted on something throughout our lives. However, how much longer are we going to regret on something that we have done out of fun, immaturity, out of our minds. Why can’t we shape ourselves in such a way that we will minimize mistakes (We can’t prevent) that might happen in the future.
So, do I have to be so careful & mindful?
Nope. If you are focusing on being careful and mindful, you will loose the fun in life. However, what I meant is to have the sense of empathy where you are able to rationalize your actions. This can be also applied to getting to know the consequences before you do something.
In other words, every relationship or friendship, or it can be even someone you met down the street, we all do have our parts to play in someone’s life. Yes, I agree that some relationships or friendships can be abusive, filled with narcissists, and more. However, that is not the case at all times. We all have our own insecurities, inabilities and behaviors. But this does not mean that it can’t be corrected, in fact it can be!
A piece of valuable advise from my life
My friend used to tell me that in every phase of life, there will be someone new you meet, or someone you loose. Some can turn into a blessing, while others can turn into abusive, and more. ~ Kahvem
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Let’s put it this way, you have hurt someone, you have broken their trust, you have lied, you have abused them (Although, abusive behavior is serious).
Ask yourself, have you genuinely apologized to them? Are you regretting on your actions? Are you willing to own up to your actions? Are you willing to make a change or difference? If you did, you are on the right track. As I said above, we humans only learn from painful situations.
NOTE: Accepting your apology, and rejoicing is definitely up to them. Try not to make the situation worst, just zip your mouth if you made the mistake and apologized.
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How do you move forward, and prove yourself?
It doesn’t have any equations nor is rocket science.
Work on yourself, improve yourself, be trustworthy, be honest, reborn the best version of yourself. Also, most importantly, move forward with “Integrity”.
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Conclusion
The antidote to all our sufferings, behavioral defects are there due to the inability of us to move with “Integrity”. If you can live with “Integrity” at your workplace (Credentials, Confidential Files). Then, you can definitely apply that in your life.
Lastly, this life is yours. Also, that means you can decide how you’d like to live it. Either happy or sad!
Have a great day ahead. Stay Safe. Stay Healthy.
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